Mahogany Obsidian: The Stone That Helped Me Stop Judging My "Irrational" Self

INTRODUCTION

Mahogany obsidian showed up in my life the way certain people do - quietly, confidently, like it already knew all my nonsense before I said a word.

I was building an altar for my mom because I got this intuitive hit (a loud one), that I needed to say goodbye so I could actually feel her presence more clearly. Logical me completely agreed. Emotional me? She was already in the corner having a meltdown about being “forgotten forever.”

And of course, my pendulum pointed straight at the mahogany obsidian like,

“Yes sweetheart, this one is for you.”

This stone is not dramatic. It’s not shiny. It doesn’t scream: “I will change your life in 7–10 business days.”

But it is brutally honest in a comforting way - the kind of friend who sits next to you, nudges your shoulder, and says, “Okay, let’s look at the thing you don’t want to talk about.”

Which in my case was the part of me I’ve always judged as ridiculous.

SCIENCE: WHY THAT "IRRATIONAL PART" EXISTS (AND WHY SHE DESERVES A BREAK)

Here’s where my logical brain relaxes a bit: there is nothing irrational about the emotional part of you that panics during loss.

After my mom died, I remember having a straight-up internal debate with myself. One part of me was like, “You know she’s gone. We can’t bargain with reality.”

And the other part - the scared, grieving, attachment-driven part - said, “I’ll do anything if you give her back.”

Logically, I knew it made zero sense. I wasn’t delusional. But the emotional brain doesn’t care about logic, it cares about connection.

From a neuroscience perspective:

• The emotional brain responds to loss the way it did when we were kids

• The logical brain watches this happen and rolls its eyes

• And the survival brain is just trying to keep everyone alive

  
  

So, when I recently felt that fear again - the fear that saying goodbye to my mom on the altar would somehow erase her - my logical mind stepped in immediately to say: “That is NOT how this works. That is not even CLOSE.”

And yet the fear was there.

This is exactly where mahogany obsidian came in. Holding it grounded me just enough that both parts could exist at once:

• The logical voice with its calm reasoning

• The emotional voice with its fear of loss

  
  

And instead of arguing with each other, they finally had space to talk.

Which, ironically, is exactly what this stone is famous for: helping you stop bulldozing your emotional self.

SPIRITUALITY: WHAT MAHOGANY OBSIDIAN DOES (BESIDES FORCE YOU TO BE HONEST)

Spiritually, mahogany obsidian is known for:

• Grounding

• Shadow work

• Ancestral healing

• Emotional stabilization without overwhelm

  
  

It has the “truth energy” of black obsidian, but without the intensity that makes you question every life choice.

This one is softer. Warmer. It whispers instead of shouts.

For me, it showed up right when I was preparing to say goodbye to my mom in the way grief needed - not the way logic preferred. I kept hearing: “Let go so you can see her. Let go so you can hear her.” And the fear - that ridiculous, unwanted, emotional fear of losing her again - kept coming up.

Mahogany obsidian didn’t make the fear disappear. it just made it safe enough to feel without judging it. It reminded me that shadow work isn’t about fixing your flaws - it’s about understanding your fears. And one of mine is losing connection. Not death…connection. Which suddenly made the emotional part of me make perfect sense.

BRIDGING THE GAP: WHERE MY STORY MEETS THE SCIENCE AND THE SPIRITUAL

This is my favourite part - where both worlds finally sit at the same table.

When I held mahogany obsidian while building my altar, three things happened at once:

1.     My logical brain recognized this as a grounding object: It lowered nervous system activation. It helped me think clearly.

2.     My emotional brain felt safe enough to express the fear: Not perform it. Not suppress it. Express it.

3.     My spiritual intuition finally had room to speak. That’s when I got the download: “You’re not saying goodbye to her. You’re saying goodbye to the emotional grip that blocks you from feeling her.”

The stone anchored me in all three dimensions:

• Physical (nervous system)

• Emotional (grief)

• Spiritual (connection to my mom)

  
  

It let me have my human moment and my higher-self clarity at the same time, without making either one wrong.

This is the real magic, and also the real science: When the emotional brain feels safe → the logical brain stops judging → the spiritual intuition becomes clearer. Mahogany obsidian is the mediator.

CONCLUSION

Mahogany obsidian isn’t flashy.

It doesn’t promise miracles.

It doesn’t pretend to be something it’s not.

It simply sits there and says: “You’re allowed to feel what you feel, even if it doesn’t make logical sense.”

This stone helped me see the part of myself I kept judging - the emotional part that reacted like a child when I was afraid of losing my mom all over again.

It helped me stop arguing with myself long enough to understand what that fear was actually saying. And in doing that, it helped me build an altar that wasn’t about grief, but about connection.

If you’re doing shadow work, ancestral healing, or trying to make peace with the emotional parts of you that don’t follow your logical rules, mahogany obsidian is a powerful companion.

Not because it fixes you - but because it helps you stop judging the parts that are still hurting.