The Cold Moon: Clearing the Air Before the Year Ends

INTRODUCTION

There's something poetic about ending the year under a moon called the Cold Moon.

Not dramatic, not mystical-for-show - just honest. It's the moon that shows up when everything has gone quiet, when the world has stopped pretending to be in full bloom, and we finally have space to see what's actually there.

And honestly? I needed that this year.

One of the hardest parts of 2025 for me wasn't business or money or juggling four kids - it was navigating tension with one of my own children. We weren't seeing each other clearly, which is hilarious in a tragic sort of way because I literary teach clarity and emotional awareness for a living. But life enjoys irony, so there we were: talking in circles, misunderstanding each other, and stacking frustration like Jenga blocks.

Even after things settled and we were "good", my body still didn't feel good. I could feel the energy sitting there - unprocessed, unfinished, like a conversation that ended mid-sentence.

Enter: the Cold Moon. Perfect timing.

This moon is all about communication, closure, and clearing old stories, and it's giving me the nudge I didn't even know I needed.

THE SCIENCE

Before anyone panics - no, the moon isn't controlling your life like a cosmic puppet master. But here's what is real:

1. The brain hates unfinished business

   Psychologists call it the Zeigarnik effect - the mind keeps looping resolved situations because it wants completion. That's why unspoken conversations feel heavier than the ones that actually happened.

   
   

2. Writing helps the nervous system discharge emotion

   
   

   Journaling activates the prefrontal cortex (logic + language) and calms the amygdala (emotion + threat response). Translation: putting feelings into words literary reduces emotional intensity.

   
   

3. Rituals tell the brain "a transition is happening"

   
   

   They create a closing signal, which helps the body shift out of stored stress.

   This is why even writing a letter you never send can change how you feel - the brain processes it as completion.

So no - the moon won't magically fix my relationship. But the timing can create the right psychological conditions for healing:

• quiet

• reflection

• emotional integration

• and the permission to stop carrying what was already over

THE SPIRITUAL PERSPECTIVE

Spiritually, the Cold Moon is a threshold moon - the final release before the new year.

Its themes are:

• closure without confrontation

• truth without explosion

• softening instead of shutting down

• endings that don't require drama

  
  

This full moon lands in Gemini, the sign of communication, perspective, and reframing. It doesn't force emotional purging - it invites clarity.

Gemini energy asks:

• What story have you been repeating out of habit?

• Is it still true?

• Do you want to carry it into the next chapter?

It's not about pretending everything is fine.

It's about changing the narrative so the past doesn't keep writing the future.

BRIDGING THE GAP (SCIENCE + SPIRIT WORKING TOGETHER)

Here's what I'm going to do - and why it will work on both levels.

I'll use:

• sodalite - for communication and staying grounded instead of reactive

• amazonite - to speak from the heart, not from the wound

• smoky quartz - to clear the mental fog and emotional residue

• clear quartz - to amplify the intention (not the feelings)

Then I'll sit you down with stationery - not my phone, not a text draft - but actual paper.

There's a reason this matters:

• Writing by hand slows the brain

• Slowing the brain increases awareness

• Awareness creates choice instead of reaction

I'll write everything I feel:

• what hurts

• what I wish had been heard

• what I need

• and - the uncomfortable part - what I could have done differently

And here's the key:

I won't send it.

Because the goal isn't to reopen the wound - it's to release the energy that's still living in my body.

As I write, I'll imagined being heard, which matters because the nervous system doesn't fully distinguish between experience and vividly processed memory.

So spiritually, I'll released the emotional imprint.

Scientifically, I'll completed the loop.

Same action. Two layers of impact. That's the bridge.

CLOSING

The Cold Moon isn't asking us to fix everything.

It's asking us to stop carrying what's already done.

Sometimes closure isn't a conversation - it's a shift in the story.

I don't know how the future will unfold with my child, but here's what I do know. The energy between us will be different. I'll feel lighter. The emotional charge will be gone.

And our relationship gets to move forward without dragging the past like a suitcase with one broken wheel.

So if there's something from this year that still lives in your body - a thought loop, a conversation you never had, a feeling that didn't get closure - this Cold Moon is your moment.

Not to confront.

Not to fix.

Just to release, so you don't bring 2025 into 2026 on repeat. Because sometimes the most powerful healing is the one no one else ever sees.